Free Parent Tool

Is My Child Meeting Their Milestones?

Answer a few questions about how your child plays, talks, and interacts. You'll get an instant, plain-language summary of what the CDC's developmental milestones say for their age — and exactly what to do next here in Missouri.

🔒 Private — your answers never leave your device ✅ No email required

This is not a diagnosis, and it is not an autism test.

This checklist compares your child against developmental milestones published by the CDC. It cannot tell you whether your child has autism — only a qualified professional can do that, after a full evaluation. What it can do is help you see clearly what you're observing and give you specific language to bring to your child's doctor.

Step 1 of 2

How old is your child?

Choose the age closest to your child's. The CDC publishes a different milestone list for each of these ages.

Child younger than 12 months or older than 5? The CDC checklists this tool uses cover ages 1 through 5. For other ages, start with our parent guide or talk directly with your pediatrician.

What this checklist can and can't tell you

Being clear about this matters more than getting you to fill out a form.

✅ What it can do

Show you how your child's social and communication development compares to CDC milestones for their age, in plain language.

Turn a vague worry into something specific you can say out loud to a doctor: “She isn't pointing to show me things, and she's 18 months.”

Help you decide whether to ask for a developmental evaluation now rather than waiting for the next well-child visit.

❌ What it can't do

Diagnose autism, ADHD, a speech delay, or anything else. Diagnosis requires direct observation and formal assessment by a qualified clinician.

Rule anything out. Plenty of autistic children meet most early milestones, particularly girls and children who speak early.

Replace your own judgment. If you're worried and this checklist says everything looks fine, stay worried and ask anyway.

One thing worth understanding about how the CDC built these lists: each milestone is one that roughly 75% or more of children can do by that age. They are deliberately not averages. That design means a missed milestone is a legitimate prompt to ask questions — but it is not, on its own, evidence that something is wrong. Children arrive at skills on their own timelines, and a single “not yet” in an otherwise typical picture is common.

Missouri-Specific

What to do next in Missouri

You do not need a diagnosis — or even a doctor's referral — to start most of these.

If your child is under 3

Contact Missouri First Steps, the state's early intervention program. Evaluations are free, no autism diagnosis is required, and you can refer your own child — you don't need a pediatrician to do it for you.

health.mo.gov/firststeps →

If your child is 3 or older

Your local public school district is required to evaluate for special education services at no cost, even before kindergarten. Put your request in writing — that starts the legal timeline.

How Missouri special education evaluations work →

For a formal evaluation

Ask your pediatrician for a developmental evaluation referral, and get on more than one waitlist — Missouri waits often run several months. The Thompson Center in Columbia and the St. Louis Center for Cognitive Health both evaluate children.

thompsoncenter.missouri.edu →
stlcch.com →

While you wait

Waiting for an evaluation doesn't have to be idle time. Our step-by-step parent guide covers what to document, how to push back on “wait and see,” and what actually happens in an evaluation.

Read the Missouri parent's guide →

If a diagnosis does come

Where ABA therapy fits — and where it doesn't

Applied Behavior Analysis is one of the most established treatment approaches for autistic children, and it is the service Archways provides. It is not the only thing that helps, and it is not appropriate for every child. Speech therapy, occupational therapy, and early intervention often matter just as much — sometimes more, depending on what your child needs. If you're still at the stage of wondering, what ABA therapy actually involves is a reasonable next read.

When families do start with us, care is delivered where it fits their life: in-home ABA therapy across Missouri, secure telehealth sessions for families far from a provider, and parent training and coaching so the strategies keep working after the session ends. Programs begin with a functional behavior assessment and every program is supervised by a BCBA.

We accept Missouri Medicaid (MO HealthNet) and most major commercial plans, and we'll verify your benefits for free before you commit to anything. If it turns out we're not the right fit for your family, we'll tell you that too.

Common Questions

Questions parents ask about this checklist

Is this an autism test or a diagnosis?

No. This is a milestone checklist, not a diagnostic test and not an autism screener. It compares what your child is doing against the developmental milestones the CDC publishes for their age. Only a qualified professional — such as a developmental pediatrician, child psychologist, or neuropsychologist — can diagnose autism, and that requires a full evaluation. Use this checklist to organize your observations before you talk to your child's doctor.

Do my answers get sent to Archways ABA?

No. Everything you enter stays in your browser on your own device. Nothing is transmitted to Archways ABA or to anyone else, nothing is stored, and no email address or phone number is required to see your results. If you later choose to contact us, that is a separate step you control.

Where do these milestones come from?

The checklist items are the social/emotional and language/communication milestones published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention as part of its “Learn the Signs. Act Early.” program. CDC selects milestones that about 75% or more of children can do by a given age, so not meeting one is a reason to ask questions — not proof that something is wrong.

My child missed a milestone. Does that mean they have autism?

No. Children develop at different rates, and a missed milestone can reflect many things — hearing loss, a speech or language delay, a global developmental delay, limited exposure to a skill, or simply individual variation. Missing milestones is a reason to talk with your pediatrician and ask about a developmental evaluation. It is not by itself an indication of autism.

My child is meeting every milestone but something still feels off. What should I do?

Trust that instinct and raise it with your pediatrician anyway. Milestone checklists are broad screening prompts and they do not capture everything — including subtler differences in social interaction, play, sensory responses, or repetitive behaviors. Parents are very often the first to notice that something is different, well before a checklist reflects it. Asking for a developmental screening costs you very little and can save months.

What should I do in Missouri if I have concerns?

If your child is under 3, you can contact Missouri First Steps directly for a free evaluation — no physician referral and no diagnosis are required. If your child is 3 or older, your local public school district must provide a free special education evaluation on written request, even before kindergarten. In parallel, ask your pediatrician for a referral for a developmental evaluation, and get on more than one waitlist, because waits in Missouri can run several months.

About this checklist & its source

The milestone statements in this tool are quoted from the developmental milestone checklists published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) through its “Learn the Signs. Act Early.” program, which are free to use and reproduce. This page uses the social/emotional and language/communication milestones for ages 1 through 5. CDC does not endorse Archways ABA, and this page is not affiliated with or approved by the CDC.

This tool is provided for information only and is not clinical advice, a diagnosis, or a substitute for evaluation by a qualified professional. Source: CDC, Learn the Signs. Act Early. — Milestone checklists.

Still not sure what you're looking at?

You can talk it through with our clinical team at no cost and with no obligation. We'll help you make sense of what you're seeing and point you toward the right next step — even if that step has nothing to do with us.

Schedule a Free Consultation (314) 668-2866